
Cassie is reading a book.
Katie is enjoying an afternoon with her kids.
Kevin is making his March Madness picks.
Carrie is having a bad day.
Facebook status updates keep me posted on what’s going on with friends across the nation – friends I rarely make time to call, friends I see even less – even the ones who do live in the same city.
And I sometimes comment on a status, and they sometimes comment on mine – it’s the new, techno-savvy way of keeping in touch, no matter how impersonal it may seem. But last week, one of these friends posted a status that got me and others within our widespread circle thinking. The friend was “wondering what matters most to people in their day-to-day lives.” She did not explain what prompted the thought – maybe it was a kind gesture from a stranger, maybe a rude driver cut her off at a busy intersection. Whatever the motivation, she opened a discussion that prompted inner reflection as much as it did examination of the world around us.
I was compelled to respond, but I did it in guilty non-answer way – by answering a question with a question, because maybe examining my true response was a hard pill to swallow. I asked her, “What matters most or what we put first, because they are hardly the same thing – and why is it so hard to keep those straight?”
Some mutual friends responded to the status.
A friend in Pennsylvania wrote, “To be honest, it depends on the day, but I hope it goes something like God, family and friends. Of course the world has a way of distracting us, and that’s the Devil’s real trick.”
Another friend, this one in Alabama, responded: “Honestly, God, my marriage and my daughter’s stability and happiness.”
And in my head and my heart, my answer was similar to theirs – God comes first, and loved ones right after, above and beyond all else – before work, before personal desires. But sadly my “day-to-day” actions rarely reflect those priorities.
I tend to cancel dinner plans or a gym outing with a girlfriend when I need just one more hour to finish a project. I forgo a phone call to a friend in need for an afternoon nap on my day off. Or worse, I skip time for daily devotionals by hitting the snooze one too many times in the morning, or let my head hit the pillow at night without giving thanks for yet another day. I don’t give that extra $10 to that worthy cause the church is supporting, but I don’t hesitate to download that new CD I’ve been waiting for on iTunes.
Rev. Ken Irby wrote a column for The Vision in January that really hit home for me. (Do you have those moments, when a pastor says something and you just know that God’s passed that message along specifically for you? … This was one of those, and yet somehow I don’t think I comprehended the words until last week.) In the column, Ken quoted an analysis of our daily time: “We worship our work, and work at our play, and play at our worship,” adding that we often times “give God a very low spot on the priority list.”
In that column, Ken said, “We try to ‘work God in’ somewhere, but our spiritual life is the first thing to go when things get busy. Of course, if there was ever a time to find our true center, to pause and consider our lives in the light of God’s presence, it is when things are hectic.”
How true those words are. Without our true center, how are we failing in those other priorities of our lives? How much more meaningful would our personal relationships and work life be if we kept our day-to-day priorities in check, putting God first even through the most chaotic days?
Ken also stressed the importance of Psalm 46:10, “Be still, and know that I am God.” In finding that quiet center, we may finally put our priorities in order and learn something about ourselves along the way.
And just days after my friend called our priorities into question, which brought me back to Ken’s column and that scripture, another friend updated her status with the same scripture. And in that moment, scrolling through friends’ status updates on my Facebook page, I found myself amazed to realize the many ways God speaks to us – the many ways God keeps trying to reach us even when we let the hustle and bustle of daily life drown out the message.
-- Angela Cason